fog light install experts please help

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this is whats going on

2007 LB US
"kargoboy fog lights"
disabled DRL
I've looked at the european manual every DIY and post I could find.
I even called Ray in New Zealand to see if he could talk me through it.
Although Ray was VERY helpful he has no DRLs.
I grounded the orange DRL wire.
my kit has the center console switch.
I would prefer to use the center console button b/c I'm being cheap and don't really need the light stalk switch.
under the hood seems fine...per RAY I hooked the hot wire of the fog harness
directly to the battery and the lights worked fine.
verified fuse in poition 12.
grounded switch
installed 4 prong relay
and I tried every combination of hooking up the remaing wires as per the manual and DIY.
still can't get them to work
Maybe I'm missing something or maybe I got a bad relay?
I'm no electrician by any means but I'm not an idiot either.


if anyone can help me out I'd greatly appreciate it.