Foglight Install Help...Please!

[skeck]

I purchased a set of Spyder brand OEM "Style" Fog Lights for my Liftback, but using the six different sets of installation instructions I have found online from everyone, I still can't make sense of what I have. Right now I have the lamps installed in the bumper, the lamps grounded and I connected the fog lamp wiring and ran it up to the fuse box. Here is where my problem starts...

1. Everywhere that I have read, I hear them talk about two wires to go into the fusebox, yet I only have one?
2. Should I get a single to two wire connector or should I just plug it into pin two or three?
3. Also the end of the power wire from the fogs has an attachment on the end that will not fit in the pin locations for 2 or 3, does anyone know where I can find terminal pins to fit my fuse box?
4. Furthermore, I have read everywhere that I should basically get rid of the relay that came with the kit and cut the wires out of it and leave them of course plugged into the switch then go right to the D4 connector? Again the problem presents itself of having the right connectors to go into the D4 connector for my wires, where do i get these and are they the same as the ones I mentioned previously?

I did go ahead and order the recommended OEM Toyota Relay for the Fogs, so I am waiting on that before I attempt to finish the job. But, before that arrives I need to try to get these questions answered with your help...

Thanks in advance for any help that you can provide to help me answer these questions.

First picture is the relay, switch, blue connector (ground I am assuming), and red and black wire (both to D4 connector?)

Second picture is the leftover cord from the fog assembly in my hood, which I am assuming goes into the fuse box pin 2 or 3?