Bitch, Rant, Complain...

[33OH]

Originally Posted by KCALB SIRAY

That's the law in Virginia. Anything had prior to being married does not fator in the dissolution of a marriage and cannot be added to the pot

Same in Ohio.

[JBougie]

Originally Posted by KCALB SIRAY

That's the law in Virginia. Anything had prior to being married does not fator in the dissolution of a marriage and cannot be added to the pot

That's cool! That's how it always should be, I hate people who feel they are entitled to things just because their significant other worked their ass off to get it. It makes me sick.

SIPNGAS, you can always set up a mock break in and make everything "disappear" LOL

just kidding :)

[hatchbackkid82]

Wow what a stand up guy I hope everything works out for you. You said it everything you worked for. I see it like this; if you came in with nothing you leave with nothing. He doesn't deserve anything from you. He is just being a parasite and feeding off of you, what a lowlife. Sorry to hear you're going through all that, fight for it, it's all yours. Hopefully he walks away with nothing. Keep your head up

Originally Posted by SIPNGAS

I didn't want to but I am so hating my soon-to-be ex right now. He's poised to take EVERYTHING that *I've* worked so hard for. And when I say everything, I mean the entire house full of furniture. He was living at home with Mom and Dad when we got married...moved in with nothing but his computer and a dresser and now he wants the entire living room, the bedroom, and the kitchen set and MY computer. He's not working and wants ME to pay ALL his bills and looks as though he's going to get his way. I am SO FED UP I am just ready to hand it all over and be done. I am seriously at the end of my rope and can't take much more.

Sorry, didn't mean to vent but nobody here wants to listen. You guys can choose to read or not. I'm usually pretty good at holding myself together but I can't do this.

[firemachine69]

Originally Posted by SIPNGAS

I didn't want to but I am so hating my soon-to-be ex right now. He's poised to take EVERYTHING that *I've* worked so hard for. And when I say everything, I mean the entire house full of furniture. He was living at home with Mom and Dad when we got married...moved in with nothing but his computer and a dresser and now he wants the entire living room, the bedroom, and the kitchen set and MY computer. He's not working and wants ME to pay ALL his bills and looks as though he's going to get his way. I am SO FED UP I am just ready to hand it all over and be done. I am seriously at the end of my rope and can't take much more.

Sorry, didn't mean to vent but nobody here wants to listen. You guys can choose to read or not. I'm usually pretty good at holding myself together but I can't do this.

I like to listen.

[SilverBack]

I'm sorry to hear that, Lisa. A man with no backbone deserves nothing but misery. I'm sure he'll get his...

Originally Posted by firemachine69

I like to listen.

Easy there buddy. She can't run away with you just yet

[GeneW]

Originally Posted by SIPNGAS

I didn't want to but I am so hating my soon-to-be ex right now. He's poised to take EVERYTHING that *I've* worked so hard for. And when I say everything, I mean the entire house full of furniture. He was living at home with Mom and Dad when we got married...moved in with nothing but his computer and a dresser and now he wants the entire living room, the bedroom, and the kitchen set and MY computer. He's not working and wants ME to pay ALL his bills and looks as though he's going to get his way. I am SO FED UP I am just ready to hand it all over and be done. I am seriously at the end of my rope and can't take much more.

Sorry, didn't mean to vent but nobody here wants to listen. You guys can choose to read or not. I'm usually pretty good at holding myself together but I can't do this.

Don't mean to be skeptical but you got more fight left in you. You gotta do it for yourself. If you don't stand up for yourself now years from now you'll regret it. Take it from me - nothing fuels regret like failing to stand up for yourself at the right moment.

It's not like you have to resolve it "here and now". You need to talk to your lawyer and see if you really owe him anything. This is a marathon and not a sprint, so pace yourself, take it easy and think things out carefully.

I take it that you have a lawyer? If not, why not? Why does he have all of the marbles? What is so special about this clown?

You're working and he isn't working? You got the power in this situation. You're the one with the steady income. You're the one who can pay a lawyer to stall him, make him wait and sweat, until his lack of money makes him take a better deal.

Dirty? Is it dirty to do what he did to you? Why do you owe him consideration at this point in time? Isn't he just giving you a last kick in the pants before he splits with you? Why give the creep the satisfaction?


If the "man" had any self respect he wouldn't ask for everything, he'd be fair minded about it. He'd get himself a temp job at the very least, not demand that his soon to be former spouse support him and give him the furniture.

The furniture!! What's he gonna do with furniture? Buy another house and make your pay for it? Rent a place and make your pay for it? Sell it off maybe?

If your lawyer ain't doing their job sack them. Get a second opinion - a lot of attorneys will give a free consult for the first half an hour. See what your legal options are in the state where you reside. You'd be surprised what you can negotiate if you're ready to walk away from the table.

Remember, Lisa, this is a marathon, not a sprint. Don't dash and don't expect to settle this any time soon. Be ready to stall, maneuver and move about until his lack of income wears him down.

Otherwise, you can take the easy way out, a way that isn't so easy in the long term, years from now, when you tell yourself, "I could have hacked it" and "I should have made him earn a living".

The economy? I still get phone calls for Contractor work, years after I quit looking. I get a mailing from Monster.com three times a week. There is work out here, it's not the greatest work, the hours aren't the best nor the pay, but it's enough to live on.

He has no excuses.... and if he has "problems" why are they your problems? Did you ruin his life? Did you hurt him? What do you owe him? He's the one who wasn't faithful, right? He's the one who stabbed you in the back, right? Why does he deserve a last insult after all of the injury?

Get your self respect back. Don't give him the satisfaction. Make up your mind to fight for what's yours and then go for it.

Gene

[mrbond]

Lisa, if I may: he is an ass and he obviously doesn't deserve what he wants from you. The old saying goes, if you want something bad enough, you'll get it. So keep fighting to keep what *you've* earned. Good luck :)

[hatchbackkid82]

Of course me and mike can drive up to the cheese state and take care of this clown Nothing a good old fashion beat down can't fix

[SIPNGAS]

Originally Posted by hatchbackkid82

Of course me and mike can drive up to the cheese state and take care of this clown Nothing a good old fashion beat down can't fix

LOL

Aww..thanks for making me feel a little bit better. I guess it's why I've been quiet the last couple of days. He's usually quiet for a while and then goes on these tangents and gets all of his friends involved. It's really, really draining.

[33OH]

Originally Posted by SIPNGAS

LOL

Aww..thanks for making me feel a little bit better. I guess it's why I've been quiet the last couple of days. He's usually quiet for a while and then goes on these tangents and gets all of his friends involved. It's really, really draining.

Just think of when it's all done and over with. Don't give up, he's not even worth getting upset over.

[detroiter]

I have a math test in a few hours that's open book but it's a pain in the ass to know which formula to use for what problems. So even though it's open book, it's barely any help. I only care so much because it's the single class I'm taking so I can get my teaching associates, already applied for graduation and would be bummed if couldn't graduate yet because of the bullshit math class. Einstein's mc-square can kiss my ass!

[hatchbackkid82]

Honestly though, fight. I know it may be exhausting but they are your things. If it were me, it would bug me to know that someone else is enjoying the things i worked so hard for. Fight!!!!!! You can do It

[eTiMaGo]

Lisa, there's not much I can do or say to help, but know that my thoughts are with you, and here's a big virtual HUG to keep you strong

[hatchbackkid82]

Did you feel his hug?

Originally Posted by eTiMaGo

Lisa, there's not much I can do or say to help, but know that my thoughts are with you, and here's a big virtual HUG to keep you strong

[hatchbackkid82]

I'm surprised no one has said it already, but this guy is a real piece of shit. What a poor excuse of man.

[KCALB SIRAY]

I don't know about Lisa, but I sure felt it lol

[33OH]

Originally Posted by KCALB SIRAY

I don't know about Lisa, but I sure felt it lol

That wasn't a hug you felt... THOMAS!

[hatchbackkid82]

I say you post his name address and phone number in the Men seeking men section of craigslist
I'm pretty sure he would be PO'ed to have some nancy boys calling him for a good time