Official Dr. Phil Thread (talk about relationships, etc.)

[Altitude]

Ok. First of all I can't stand Dr. Phil. Now that that's out of the way...

Just tell him you don't feel comfortable doing it and that you're too close to the subject matter to be objective about it.

In my opinion the fact that he's trying to guilt you into it by bringing up things he's done for you in the past is a negative strike against him to start with. Relationships aren't about obligations or keeping score about who's done what for the other. They're about mutual respect and doing things for one another because one wants to do them. No strings attached.

Furthermore if he is so unaware of his own positive and negative traits as to be unable to present himself honestly and openly in a dating profile he's probably not really ready for another relationship.

My personal attitude towards relationships is that it is best when two whole people come together to form a greater whole as opposed to the "you're the half that makes me whole" attitude that so many seem to strive for when looking for a mate. He needs to spend more time getting to know himself better so that he can present a whole person to future partners.

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Originally Posted by Altitude

Ok. First of all I can't stand Dr. Phil. Now that that's out of the way...

Just tell him you don't feel comfortable doing it and that you're too close to the subject matter to be objective about it.

In my opinion the fact that he's trying to guilt you into it by bringing up things he's done for you in the past is a negative strike against him to start with. Relationships aren't about obligations or keeping score about who's done what for the other. They're about mutual respect and doing things for one another because one wants to do them. No strings attached.

Furthermore if he is so unaware of his own positive and negative traits as to be unable to present himself honestly and openly in a dating profile he's probably not really ready for another relationship.

My personal attitude towards relationships is that it is best when two whole people come together to form a greater whole as opposed to the "you're the half that makes me whole" attitude that so many seem to strive for when looking for a mate. He needs to spend more time getting to know himself better so that he can present a whole person to future partners.

That is such a great point, it shut me up for a while!!

You know I started this post as kind of a joke (in the KCALB thread) because I can totally see the humor in the situation, but you've just put your finger on what really bothers me about this whole thing.

It's not the profile, I don't even care anymore. It's that I can't stand people who count everything you do for them or they do for you. A relationship with another person isn't a f'ing ATM transaction!!!

PS. Sorry about "dr. phil" couldn't think of anything better ;)

[2+2]

Doctor 2 says...

Like the great Groucho once said "but enough about me, what do you think about me?". Men are like little children that need to have the spotlight on them 24/7. Being in a relationship with a woman gives a man that spotlight and when it's over with the woman he begins to have spotlight withdrawals (or bwankie withdrawals as the case may be). His pretense is to seek your help with his sex resume when really what he's after is some ego support from THE BEST DAMNED THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO HIM! Ahem, excuse the outburst.

I say forget men entirely and go find yourself a nice little filly to settle down with. Ok j/k women are an even bigger pain in the ass, trust me.

Dr 2

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Originally Posted by 2+2

Doctor 2 says...

Ok j/k women are an even bigger pain in the ass, trust me.

Dr 2

I believe you!!!